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transpaoOkay so this has been bugging me a bit and situations like this crop up often. I can't figure out if I'm just expecting FAR too much of people or if the whole world is nutters.
The other day I went into the office and my Dad (the boss) and Stephanie (the front desk lady) were talking about the Christmas party the night before. (I couldn't go as I had to help my mom drive from TN) They were discussing events and talking about a gay couple that came to the party. (Now Steph and Dad both know I'm bi and in general are pretty cool about it.)
the thing is that Steph started telling this story about how she "knew" it was time to cut off the alcohol flow to on of the gay guys when he walked by her and a couple of my dad's friends and somewhat out of his usually reserved nature said "Has anyone seen my husband?" Apparently at this point one of my dad's friends began to have a small fit over it. "Did he just say what I think he said?" kinda thing. At the telling of this my dad and Steph began to laugh hysterically and maybe I'm just a fuddy duddy but I didn't find it funny.
Why is it that even in relatively accepting circles... 1. Words like wife and husband create such a stir? 2. Why is it ok to be gay but not ACT gay? 3. Why are gays always the but of everyones jokes?
I was kinda proud of my dad though when Steph started talking about how one of the gay guys had said something to her about breaking things off with his husband. My dad replied that he thought it was probably all the alcohol talking, and (somewhat referring to himself and his girlfriend here) said "When you have a life partner for several years it's not as easy to break things off as all that." On the one hand of my dad referring to himself and his hetero relationship as a life partner kinda thing made me feel a little better, but on the other if Steph and he had been talking about a straight couple I dunno if he would have chosen those words.
I'm just sick of everyone treating homo relationships as if they are sooooooooo different from hetero ones. I've been in both! There may be some interaction differences but why is it that people have to make it such a different thing. and honestly I've seen all manner of queer people making the same distinction. I just don't get it. Maybe I'm stupid and idealistic, but why can't it just be recognized as Love... end of story.
posted in bi_people as well.
The other day I went into the office and my Dad (the boss) and Stephanie (the front desk lady) were talking about the Christmas party the night before. (I couldn't go as I had to help my mom drive from TN) They were discussing events and talking about a gay couple that came to the party. (Now Steph and Dad both know I'm bi and in general are pretty cool about it.)
the thing is that Steph started telling this story about how she "knew" it was time to cut off the alcohol flow to on of the gay guys when he walked by her and a couple of my dad's friends and somewhat out of his usually reserved nature said "Has anyone seen my husband?" Apparently at this point one of my dad's friends began to have a small fit over it. "Did he just say what I think he said?" kinda thing. At the telling of this my dad and Steph began to laugh hysterically and maybe I'm just a fuddy duddy but I didn't find it funny.
Why is it that even in relatively accepting circles... 1. Words like wife and husband create such a stir? 2. Why is it ok to be gay but not ACT gay? 3. Why are gays always the but of everyones jokes?
I was kinda proud of my dad though when Steph started talking about how one of the gay guys had said something to her about breaking things off with his husband. My dad replied that he thought it was probably all the alcohol talking, and (somewhat referring to himself and his girlfriend here) said "When you have a life partner for several years it's not as easy to break things off as all that." On the one hand of my dad referring to himself and his hetero relationship as a life partner kinda thing made me feel a little better, but on the other if Steph and he had been talking about a straight couple I dunno if he would have chosen those words.
I'm just sick of everyone treating homo relationships as if they are sooooooooo different from hetero ones. I've been in both! There may be some interaction differences but why is it that people have to make it such a different thing. and honestly I've seen all manner of queer people making the same distinction. I just don't get it. Maybe I'm stupid and idealistic, but why can't it just be recognized as Love... end of story.
posted in bi_people as well.
